"We accept the love we think we deserve."

"We accept the love we think we deserve."

(Stephen Chbosky, The Perks Of Being A Wallflower)

Hi everybody, Mary here.

So, as a part of #DoubleSunday (the only day when I write two posts instead of one), I decided to comment on this quote and tell you what I feel about this. I read many interpretations of this really fascinating quote, yet I haven't found an opinion that's strictly mine, so I thought you wouldn't mind if I talked about it for a while.

In my opinion, there are different kinds of people, when it comes to relationships, and I am going to talk very generally by using stereotypes. Of course nobody will really fit into one of this clichés completely, but it's to ease the task. So, we have different frames :

- The person with a high sense of self/who believes to be the ruler of the world or a really important person with high values and standards : of course, this kind of people won't settle easily for anybody who wouldn't treat them like the supposed ruler that they are, and obviously are less likely to end up in a relationship that will be abusive for them. But in certain cases, people with such an inflated ego will end up alone, not because of their standards, but because they will have be turned down by everybody else. In my opinion, especially in a relationship, modesty and share is one of the main keys to success. But again, it is just my opinion.

- The person with a moderate sense of self : for most people, love/relationships will have a normal course. Of course falling in love is the best feeling and having to part is the worst, but after all, we all are humans with feelings and a complexity that not everybody can grasp. In this case, people will be the least likely to end alone, because they know what's right for them and what's wrong, and they will fit for most cases in the normality of relationships.

- The person with a low sense of self/a really poor self-esteem : this person is the most likely to have a troubled past, a history of rejection or just a really poor self-esteem. As we humans are social and political animals, social and human interaction is vital for us to maintain our sanity and humanity. This kind of people, sadly, sometimes don't know what's right or wrong for them, as they will settle for an abusive love, often because they believe that they don't deserve any better. They are also more likely to end up alone because of their numerous stories of rejection, which leads them to believe that they aren't worthy of love or anything remotely close to that.

Alright, long post but that's what I wanted to say today ! I hoped you enjoyed this post and I will see you very soon as we continue our #TwoWeeksOfHannibal with the second season !

And as usual, our last word... KIDNEYS !