Dear Lesbians...

Dear Lesbians...

(tw : biphobia, transphobia, cheating, awful stereotypes, please tell me if more)

Hi everybody, Mary here.

So, here's a little thing that I wanted to get off my chest for a very long time. Recently, I've been watching a lot of lesbians on YouTube, and I've found out about a couple of things that I don't like really much. So, here's the list of these things written to those lesbians that I hate so f*cking much.

Dear Lesbians,

How come you complain about « how hot » straight girls are, wanting to date & sleep with them, and literally fetishising them and wanting them to turn magically lesbians, but just for you, but when you find out that a girl you fancy really much and who happens to be the girl of your dreams, is actually bisexual, you turn her down, just on the pretext that « she might turn back to men » ?

That's what I call « the lesbian paradox ».

Because unless your « straight girl » happens to be a lesbian in the closet, waiting for the right moment to come out (and it's still very rare !!!), you won't have much chances of turning her gay as a straight man has chances of turning you straight.

Why don't you focus, instead, on the girls who actually love you, who are attracted to your gender, who are WOMEN LOVING WOMEN, even when they're bi/poly/pan ?

If my statistics are correct, a straight girl will have much more chances of running after the first dude she happens to be attracted to, and leave you with your broken heart.

While I understand that some « straight girls » lead you on and manipulate your feelings and then run after the first guy she sets her eyes on, comparing bisexual girls and other multi-sexual girls to the stereotypes of « cheating », « liar », « confused », « greedy », and so on, is deeply biphobic and needs to stop.

Secondly, when you equate your lesbianism with your hatred of penises, you're trans-misogynistic. Let me tell you : when you talk about dudes, you talk about penises that you obviously hate so f*cking much. When you talk about ladies, you talk about vaginas, which you adore. This point of view is deeply cissexist and also needs to stop.

Please don't turn down a trans girl because she has a penis. You should watch « Her Story », an one-hour drama in six short episodes that explain the dating lives of queer and trans women. At the beginning, Violet, a bisexual & trans woman, finds many men willing to date her, but no women. Don't be the transphobic one telling her « she's not a real woman ». It's BULLSHIT.

Last but not least, I don't understand the meaning of being a « gold star lesbian ». Just because you never dated anyone else but girls doesn't make you better than any other woman loving women, and it doesn't increase your dating value. Why do you need a gold star ? It definitely doesn't justify your « disgust » when one of your ex-« girlfriends » ends up being one of your ex-boyfriends (basically you dated a closeted trans man. Yes, « gold star lesbian » !!! You dated a MAAAAAN !!! No more « gold star » for you !!!).

Also don't be « disgusted » when one of your ex-girlfriends end up dating men. If she's bi/poly/pan, LET HER LIVE !!! She isn't in your life anymore. Her feelings are her own and shouldn't be controlled by you. She hasn't « cheated » on you since you BROKE UP !!!

In the end, I'm so f*cking disgusted at your « purist » point of view. I'll end this letter by reminding you that LESBIANS ARE NOT THE ONLY WOMEN WHO LOVE WOMEN !!!!! Please respect ALL women who love women. Putting us in a « seperate box » because we aren't lesbians end up with me (and probably more of us) wanting to date other bi/poly/pan people, because apparently, we have less bias when it comes to love.

Can't you just accept us as women loving women and include us in your sapphic pride ?

A cute little pan girl who loves women A LOOOOOT.

(P.S. : Sappho was BISEXUAL !!!!! hahahaha suck on that LESBIANS !!!!!)

Alright, that's it for today ! I really hope you enjoyed this post and I'll see you very soon with another one !

And as usual, our last word : KIDNEYS !!!